Today is a gift.
If we’ve learned to crave what is bad for us, we can relearn to crave what is good.
What is the greatest game changer when we are going through adversity? ATTITUDE!
It’s generally not delivering the message to others that causes us trouble; it’s our unrealistic expectations around the response.
On a certain Sunday morning, I woke up in one of the foulest moods ever. It was one of those days I wanted to stay hidden, buried beneath my bed covers. I’d spent much of the previous week at home sick, and everything had piled up: a writing deadline, cooking and storing my meals for the upcoming week, a mound of dirty laundry, and a stack of items on my desk screamed for my attention. I also had to attend a meeting later that evening. The more I thought about all the things I had to do, the worse I began to feel. With lethargic movements, I begrudgingly began to sort my laundry. It wasn’t until I snapped at my innocent partner for asking a simple question that I realized I had to do something before I traveled any further into my miserable maze of darkness.
I knew what I had to do: I had to Reframe it.
I quickly took action by self-talking it through, Reframing each thought. “I don’t have to work on my book; I get to work on my book. I’ve been given the gift of crafting words into stories that have meaning. I don’t have to cook my meals for the week; I get to cook. I’m able to utilize the knowledge I’ve acquired from years in the fitness industry to prepare nutritious fuel for my body. I don’t have to do my laundry, I get to. I’m appreciative of the wardrobe I have today. I can easily remember the days that I didn’t have many clothes to wash.”
By the time I’d Reframed every negative thought with a more positive, realistic perspective, my mood had completely changed. Within minutes I was happier, more energetic, and even singing along with the radio as I began to do my work.
Reframing my thinking about my work had a profound effect on the way I felt, AND on my performance. I ended up accomplishing more that day than just the things on my list. When we FEEL better, we perform better.
I think we can all agree that there is an undeniable need around us to FEEL better. And why not? Who doesn’t want to feel better? We’ll take medication to feel better, change jobs to feel better, change romantic relationships, buy a car, or buy a house. Some of us will even take on the latest exercise craze in the quest to FEEL better. And although some of the things we do might be necessary at the time and very beneficial, why do we so often find the “feel better” part to be temporary?
What is often missing is the simple understanding that how we FEEL is directly connected to how we THINK. If we want to change the way we feel, we first have to change the way we think.
We might not be able to control the things that happen to us, but we can control the way we perceive them. Regardless of how bad something appears, we always have the choice to Reframe it.
Think Better Feel Better Live Better